Choose a private moment, name what you noticed, and ask plainly. You will not cause suicidal thoughts by asking.
If there is immediate physical danger, an active attempt, or a medical emergency, contact emergency services immediately.
What you can do now
Take these steps in order.
1
Say what you noticed without judgment.
2
Ask: “Are you thinking about suicide?”
3
If the answer is yes, maybe, silence, or uncertainty, stay and bring in support.
Words you can use
Copy, send, or say this:
“I care about you. You have seemed overwhelmed and said you feel trapped. Are you thinking about suicide?”
Use the word suicide
Clear language is kinder than hints. Avoid vague questions such as “You are not going to do something silly, are you?” That wording can make honesty harder.
Listen before trying to fix
Thank them for telling you.
Ask what is making it hardest to stay safe.
Do not challenge, shame, or compare their pain.
Do not leave them alone if danger may be immediate.
Ask about immediate safety
A crisis counselor or qualified professional can help assess risk. You can ask whether they feel in immediate danger and whether they have taken any action. Avoid exploring method details beyond what is needed to get urgent help.
Bring in more help
Call or text 988 together. For a child or teenager, involve a trusted adult. If there is an active attempt, immediate physical danger, or a medical emergency, contact emergency services.
Foundational health and safety guidance grounded in cited national sources. Qualified clinical and suicide-prevention review is required before broad public promotion.
